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[quote=Anonymous]OP's original question was: "How do you come to agreement?"

OP - any marital advice or counselor worth anything agrees that for these big changes that materially impact the other spouse, either partner gets veto power.

Example: One spouse wants to have another baby, and the other does not?  Does not matter how bad either one's rationale is.... the person who does NOT want the baby (the change) always "wins out".

Example: One spouse wants to move to a new city, and the other does not?  Does not matter how bad either one's rationale is.... the person who does NOT want to move (the change) always wins out.

Example: One spouse their job and wants to quit to something slightly lower paying.  The person who wants to quit DOES get power to make this decision themselves, because it won't materially impact the other spouse.

In your example, your DH wants you to quit your job.  You do not want to quit.  There is no agreement to come to.  YOU have veto power over this decision, because he cannot make a decision for your family that is a material change for you and something you don't want.  Hard stop.  [/quote]

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