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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. Geez people. I didn’t cheat on my ex bf and I have never been a gold digger. [b]I made my share of mistakes that lead to the breakup[/b] but we had several years of happiness together. One of the reasons we grew apart was bc he became hyper focused on becoming rich, which wasn’t important to me. He fell in with a circle of “bros” and changed somewhat from the genuine guy he had been. He moved to another city for a job and I wasn’t supportive. We were young and just starting out professionally  and weren’t ready to compromise for each other. It was a sad breakup. Hearing about him after all this time  was salt in some wounds I didn’t realize still existed. And yeah thinking  about a couple hundred million when I’m in the working parent grind makes me a bit envious. It’s not a good look, I know, which is why I’m complaining on an anonymous forum.

But yes of course it’s ridiculous and  know I don’t want him at this point in my life, and I’m sure Th e feeling is mutual. Just a weird and unexpected feeling. I will get back to focusing on my life and my kids who i wouldn’t trade for a billion dollars. [/quote]

Everybody makes mistakes. We are all human. "Only ifs" never fully go away but they need to be controlled. "If only I had given that person a chance", "If only we didn't have that argument the night we broke up", "If only I said, "honey, we're both young, how about if I move to the new city with you"? But that's life. So much of what happens to us is random.

Your husband and kids might be great, but normal life and work tensions can easily change the narrative to "if only it worked out I would be in a mansion driving a Bentley with not a money worry in the world." However, I am sure there would be other issues.And you might have still broken up later on. You don't want him at this point in your life, and moving the past to the present is a Pandora's Box. But I have no doubt that every once in a while he probably thinks well of you, so leave it at that.[/quote]

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I don’t think of any of my past relationships.  Never have i thought what could have been or what they are doing now.  A good reason is I fell head over heels in love with my spouse at 26 and none of them compared.  I could care less what they are doing now.  I think most people that are happy with their station in life don’t romanticize the past and aren’t on Facebook trying to connect with HS boyfriends/girlfriends.  [/quote]

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