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[quote=Anonymous]When my brother died suddenly in was in my 20s and was basically non responsive for months. I’d been dating a guy for six months at the time. He showed up and expected nothing from me that whole time. Put food in my fridge...got me out of the house occasionally, hugged me when I cried. In the back of my mind I thought regularly that it was too early for us to be dealing with something so heavy. He happened to be physically with me when I found out and drove me home to my parents house that day. He just never really made me ask for anything, I wasn’t capable, just provided a quiet wall of support. He’s now my husband.

I guess my points are

1) it’s totally within the realm of possibility that he’s not even thinking straight enough to think the way you want him to
2) he might not want to saddle someone he’s been dating for six weeks (so still a light and happy relationship) with something so heavy, and since he’s unable to fake light and happy, is just choosing to withdraw instead
3) you sound like an insensitive jerk who doesn’t care that he’s hurting, and that is probably also coming across when you talk to him. The insensitive jerks that wanted to make my grief about them were the first people on the chopping block when the dust settled[/quote]

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