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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A SAHM with kids doing DL is somehow finding time to have sex with someone else?  And your only clue is a change in grooming habits?   How on earth would that work?   You think she’s sneaking out of the house in the middle of the night or something?   I swear, op, if my dh came to me with that story and those questions, my head would explode.   Both at the lack of trust, and the sheer stupidity of it.  [/quote]

My partner's AP had all kinds of BS excuses...the gym or going for a run was common and she would go to the Marriott down the road.  She also had some stupid business that made deliveries which was a cover for being out of the house.  She also had a couple of whore friends that all covered for each other when they were with their APs..even for overnights.[/quote]

Yep.  OP you already are being gaslighted which is evidenced by the fact you are questioning yourself over some pretty strong evidence and are afraid to even ask about her trimmed bush, much less cheating.  I doubt she will outright admit the newly trimmed bush is for someone new, but you will open the dialogue.  Personally, I think I would investigate first because it will save you years of being lied to and since you want to believe her, you will find yourself believing more and more outlandish things and she will have you second-guessing yourself not her. It is so common/text book for cheaters to play the 'you don't trust me. you are awful' card and for you to buy it.

I am really amazed by so many spouses afraid to ask their spouses the simplest questions as they arise.  Why is everyone so afraid of their spouses?  It speaks to lack of communication, if not outright emotional abuse that they are afraid to bring anything up.

I will say, never in 1,000 years would I have thought my spouse was having an affair. Never.  And I questioned how he would have even pulled it off since he was never taking trips or going out without me and never late for dinner, etc.  I even had password to his phone and we share appleID/cloud, etc.    2020 is so easy to do this stuff.  And, once they start meeting experienced cheaters their knowledge expands exponentially on how to pull this off...even how to hack your location on an iphone---very easy to drop the pin somewhere else to make it look like you are somewhere you are not.

We are pretty much left with no means to reliably detect signs of cheating   The lists you find on the Internet are so outdated.  People are not that obvious.[/quote]

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