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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why is it that every time we have someone post that she lives away from her parents, the sibling that is closer to the parents is an unreasonable one? OP's parents are 80ish, she said. But, they are fully functional and need no help? How realistic is that? Not realistic at all. I am guessing that adult kids living far away are underplaying how much help elderly parents do need so that they can feel justified in no being there.
I am guessing OP has no clue how much help her parents need! Even though, she posted that her BIL and older sister are constantly helping her parents.
Seems like OP's sister is fed up that OP wants a say in everything, but is not actually there.[/quote]

Yes, they are very functional in a regimented, way, and in a domestic way, in some ways indicative of how they always were. My mother was like martha stewart : She foodshops (prepandemic), does laundry, cooks a lot, bakes, gardens, reads, pays her bills, shops at macy's when it was safe, goes on fb  and talks on the phone with her living over 80 relatives, a group of 4 women. Prepandemic they all saw each other for lunches. My cousins sometimes visit like i visit my aunts when i go home. My father walks, reads and watches tv. They are healthy. For local dr's appointments, my mother drives herself. For specialists, my older sister drives them. They have help for things like lawncare, snow removal, obviously. They have money because they are savers. They are married 60 years. I am sorry this does not fit your perception. It could change on a dime, but they were both doing really well for their age. [/quote]
Yes, ok op. You are totally the victim of your sister. 
Why are the older sister and middle sister's husband doing anything for them at all? Perhaps you don't really know? Not being there and all? Easy for you to tell someone who is there how things are with parents you did not see since March.[/quote]

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