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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've got one of those rare marriages where my husband actually does half, it's amazing, and I feel awful for everyone else. You truly have my sympathies. Especially those who had husbands who seemed to be doing their half before marriage/kids and then it all fell apart. Totally sucks.

That said:

1) I would not put up with it. Do your half or I'm out. It's not something I would learn to live with.

2) I also knew when dating that this is a big issue, so I was looking for someone who would do this, and we had LOTS of conversations about it while dating, engaged, newlywed, and pregnant.

[b]3) There is an element of giving up control that you need to accept to have this marriage. My husband is in charge of all baby food. He does NOT do it the way I would - not as many veggies. Everything is store bought Gerber. He's introduced foods a bit willy-nilly, without following a plan or anything. But I don't say a damn word. Because it's done, it's great, and I literally just feed my kid what my husband puts on the counter for me. I never even think about it. That's a win.[/b] [/quote]

This is key. A lot of women want their husbands to do it their way - the [i]perfect[/i] way. No, shut up and let him do it the same way he would if you were dead. Then you get an involved partner.[/quote]

Maybe some men would eventually figure it out, by my husband just never learns. After YEARS of being primarily responsible for laundry, our laundry is still a constant crisis. Like, kids going to school in dirty clothes, daughter this morning leaving with a lightweight tee shirt under a winter coat because she has no long sleeved shirts and toddler wearing shoes without socks level DH never actually "engaging." [/quote]

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