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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The only way I'd be willing to spend a holiday with my in-laws without my spouse is if that was it -- I'm not schlepping over there the next weekend, too, to do it all again with my husband.  AND if the in-laws were nice to me.  I'm not giving up a holiday with my family to spend it with my husband's parents *without him*, if they are rude or critical or unkind or unwelcoming to me.  If they treat me like crap, or like an unfortunate side-effect of seeing their grandkids, then tough luck.  [/quote]
I think people here are just being deliberately holier than thou about this because I bet my pumpkin pie none of them would actually sacrifice time with their family to visit their husband’s family when he’s working, just to visit again. I smell BS. Also, the comment makes you wonder why the husband isn’t too into his parents...[/quote]

This is really false.  My kid deserves a relationship with both side of her family.  I might not make as much of an effort to get to exactly 50/50 if my DH was dragging his feet, but this is the far end of the spectrum.  No holidays, ever, and every one with her family?  And everyone lives within driving distance?

"The comment" that you're trying to turn into MIL is a bad person was a true statement.  She never gets to see her grandchildren on holidays, and that is not fair.  If there were abuse or alcoholism or guns laying around or any good reason for the imbalance, OP would have said so.  Instead it's just "why me???" when the answer is, "because you're the one deciding who your kids spend holidays with."  You can't intentionally snub someone for years and then complain when they notice they're being snubbed that their noticing is the reason you did it.  Logic![/quote]
But that’s the way it is. I’m sure it stinks for OP and her kids that THEIR FATHER/HUSBAND isn’t home some holidays, too. But by all means, you’re right; the MIL only gets to spend THE WEEKEND with her son and grandchildren. Poor her. I mean, some people don’t even get to see their grandkids on holidays AT ALL. This woman gets a weekend and still complains because her son and grandkids aren’t there because HE IS WORKING. Plus, on top of that, he’s not even close to his parents. Yet somehow this is the wife’s issue. Ok...[/quote]

This is an extremely immature mindset.[/quote]

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