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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DD (8) has always been in the 90th+ percentiles for height and weight but she has gone from being well proportioned to kind of heavy and having a decent belly. If you calculate her BMI she qualifies as being in the overweight range. While she doesn’t eat atrociously given what I see her friends eating (who are all stick thin), she is a picky eater who favors carbs and doesn’t really eat meat. She will eat vegetables and fruit with every meal, but she eats a pretty large volume of food overall and tends to snack on things that are not very healthy - goldfish, granola bars, pirate’s booty, etc. She is currently in school (not in DC) and just wants what her friends are eating for lunch and after school for snacks. She used to eat dessert regularly but we have already cut it down to 2X per week (other nights an apple or berries is the dessert option). I think another part of the issue is that she is so much more sedentary now because in school they literally sit at their desks all day and went from having PE daily to twice per week (and that’s weather dependent).

We have talked before about the importance of eating healthy and she knows which foods are good and bad, but she is too young to really care or actively think about it. Is there some productive way I can have a discussion with her without giving her a complex or making her feel bad?

Is there anything else I can do to stop her from getting even heavier down the line? If I take away the snacks and insist she only has a very healthy lunch she gets upset she can’t have what her friends have and asks why and I don’t know how to respond.

I was a fat kid until high school and really don’t want her to experience the same. Middle school was horrendous for me and I was teased for being fat, while my parents never said or did a thing to encourage me to eat better or be active. I really don’t want DD to experience the same.

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NO NO NO say nothing. Provide healthy meals and snacks with treats. Do not focus on food or gaining weight. it will backfire.  It always does. She will be fine. She will figure it out. Take walks exercise is fun do dance videos etc.. Do not focus on food or gaining weight.[/quote]

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