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[quote=Anonymous]OP - my heart goes out to you.  It really does.  I can't imagine the stress you are going through with your son.

Here are my 2 cents:

You say that you can't get up and move or leave your husband or x, y or z.  Reading your posts, it sounds like you are right that you can't do those things RIGHT NOW.  But what can you do RIGHT NOW that will bring you closer to being able to do those things.

Can you set aside ANY money at all?  Is there anything you can sell (secretly) and then stash the money away? Moving across country, getting a divorce, leaving your husband of 23 years - these are all admittedly very big moves.  But instead of that one big move, how about you try to reach the same point by way of many many smaller steps.

I don't know exactly what is feasible for you, but I know that there must be something.  If therapy isn't working, stop going.  I wouldn't normally advise anybody of this, but if you feel like it isn't helping, then take that money and the time you'd use for therapy and stash it away.  During that one hour, do something (small but productive) to get you to your goal (let's say, to move back to CA).  Research doctors.  I can't believe that there aren't great doctors out there as well.  You just may have not found them yet.

Nothing will change if you won't do anything else.  Your husband sounds like a piece of work, but honestly, you need to let go of the small shit.  Your life is too complicated to care about things like your DH leaving putting a ladder on something wet and almost falling (or whatever).  Who cares about what could have happened?  Let that stupid stuff go and focus on the big things...[/quote]

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