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[quote=Anonymous]11:15 and 11:28, I would LOVE nothing more than to pick up and move back to California. Believe me I have wracked my brain every which way possible to see if there's any way we could do it,  but unfortunately it is not possible. And no this is NOT an excuse it is reality and facts.

My mom is in her upper 70s and lives with her 92 year old boyfriend up in the Hollywood Hills. As stressful as it is living with my husband in my current situation, it would be even more so to live with my mom. She can be VERY short-fused and easily agitated and even when my son and I went for a visit, it was SOOO stressful for him because of that, which in turn caused his tics and other symptoms, to get out of hand. And that was only for a 10 day visit.

I've even discussed with her the thought of moving back and she doesn't want us to because she feels it would be way too traumatic for my son and also for reasons as follows. I think she also does not want the responsibility or inconvenience of having us stay with her and her boyfriend, even if it's temporary. She already has a lot on her plate dealing with my younger sister who has major issues, and I think she wants as much piece and quiet in her life as possible.

I love my mom to death, but living with her would be beyond a nightmare. Aside from that, their location is very out of the way and the schools within a reasonable reach of there would not be a good fit for my son.

Also, my son is VERY attached to his dad and visa-versa, so taking a special needs child whose conditions worsen big time with stress and trauma, away from his dad, friends and home since age 2, would be beyond devastating for him and I would fear for his physical and emotional well-being.

The other BIG problem would be finding reputable doctors, therapists, etc. My mom and sister are simply not capable or willing to do that for me, and my sister has major issues, so I would have to do it all on my own. Not that I would mind, but the time it would entail and trying to find good, competent doctors who have an understanding of my son's issues, especially Lyme, which is not that prevalent in Southern California, would be a full-time job in itself.

Last, but not least, again it's about finances. Renting a place near where my mom or sister lives, or ANY halfway decent area out there is an absolute fortune. Low-income housing out there would be very, very dangerous, we're talking gang-infested, high crime areas.

Just for the heck of it, I looked a little bit when we went to visit over the summer. Something halfway decent in a decent area is a minimum 2,500 to 3k if you're lucky.

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