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[quote=Anonymous]It is a bit of a warning flag.  I have larger longer fingers and something small does look silly on my hand. So when it came time, he went with a semi-precious stone with diamonds surrounding it that was well within what he was comfortable with spending. I was happy with that -- I married the guy, not the ring. And yes, at various times in my life, when I want the jewelry, I went out and bought my own darn jewelry.

The only caveat is this -- I don't know why your budget is what it is. I think it's perfectly reasonable, but if let's say you're making $1m a year, it's a different warning flag -- are you so insecure about $$ that you're going to be miserly with everything going forward, then it's a discussion you need to have about money and expectations. I never want to spend more than I have, but as our incomes have increased over the year, we do buy nicer things than we did 20 years ago. If you're still pinching pennies because you've got some hangups about money that let's say are held over from a poor childhood, then you need to work those out.

If this really is who you think your life partner should be, you need to have serious talks about money. No one wants to, but marriages fail over money all the time. [/quote]

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