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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No I did not speak to the wife, I don’t have a relationship with her, only met her a couple of times. Now I don’t know if im comfortable with her going there, so not going to push the issue now[/quote]

Maybe how you treat her and the lack of communication is the issue.  Reach out to both of them and let them know that daughter was very disappointed in missing her visit with them, would very much like to see them and what can you do to support them to make the visit  happen.  There is clearly more to this story.  You being supportive of her could make a huge difference.  [/quote]

Agree.  It's obvious the stepmom is being made the scapegoat here.

"...he cant take DD to his house because his wife is pregnant and didnt know he was bringing DD back with him..."   Sorry, but I don't buy this for a minute.  Particularly since the child this woman is carrying is half-sibling to her DD.

The fact OP states she has no relationship with this woman is telling as is the fact she indicates she is not comfortable with her daughter going there "now." IMO the OP is looking for reasons to curtail the child's contact with father and prevent any potential relationship with the dreaded stepmother.

OP, if you really want to be the bigger parent then develop a better relationship with "the wife" since your children will be related.   [/quote]

Close family member was "wife" No. 2. And she used to do this to the other kids from "wife" No. 1.  She wanted her nuclear family close and that was it. Planned "family" vacations around times when "steps" were still in school, didn't invite "steps" to family holidays, didn't want "steps" around new babies...etc... it was awful.  I think it came from a position of insecurity, which she had good reason to be since in due course she became "ex wife No. 2".  "Wife" No. 3, added some "steps" to the crew... Most parents want the best for their children, but in situations like this, the best has already left the barn, so you have to make do with the all the giant piles of poo just lying around.  Most likely the wife and the ex are both turds... that's how they found each other.  [/quote]

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