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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If she’s a valued friend, call her and talk to her about how her email affected you. Try to work through it- these are such tense times. A lot of people are behaving in unexpected ways. I think it would be good to let her know she hurt your feelings. From an outsider’s perspective, it seems like she’s second-guessing herself, her choices,  and putting it on you. Good luck, OP.[/quote]

Get off email, call her up, say "what the heck?" I bet there are other things going on and she needs a friend and just handled it poorly.

If she's not a valued friend, it's a very different email. [/quote]

Agree. Don't email her back. Either ignore it or call her. If you call, I would not say "what the heck". I would ask some polite questions asking her how the party went and just express the sentiment that you regret Larlo was unable to attend. If she gets hostile or accusatory or passive aggressive about isolation, I would say something like "yes, you mentioned that in your email. thank you for letting me know". If she then continues to push it I would say something like, "Susie, I appreciate your point of view, but DH and I making the decisions that are best for our family. Hope we can get together for Halloween next year. Are you going to the PTA meeting next week?"

If she can't respect your boundaries, then you need to freeze her out. Wanting to keep in touch with her after that inappropriate comment is charitable on your part, IMHO.

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