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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People have a right to live out their days as they wish, as painful as it can be to watch. At that age, any day a person can spend contentedly is a treasure. Moving them someplace they don’t want to be “benefits” only family members/friends who feel responsible for ensuring that person lives as long as possible, happy or not.

It’s hard, and I went through something similar with multiple family members (strong opinions about wanting to remain at home), including my parents. My perspective changed after seeing people moved “for their own good,” after which they were bitter and lived the rest of their days depressed. IMO it’s better to live a slightly shorter life on your own terms.[/quote]

This!! Let them stay in their homes. I don’t blame them. [/quote]

What if it’s unsafe to do so?[/quote]

A 94 yr old is on the brink of death either way. Safety is no longer an issue. [/quote]

Ah, no understanding and nothing to offer. Great. [/quote]

NP here. You say that, but yet, everyone here pushing suggestions for moving the woman out of her home are the ones completely missing the point. Really, what is the risk of leaving this woman in her home? She falls and dies? She has a stroke? Gets dehydrated? She's 93 and will die on her own terms. That's the point. My parents moved into one of those graduated senior living communities, 18 months ago withoug fully understanding how many decisions about how they live would be taken out of their hands. Now, since my father had some abdominal issues, went to the hospital (though I urged them to stop going to the hospital), was given anasthesia for a colonoscopy they didn't even understand that he was having, developed sudden onset delirium as a result, was put in nursing care in their community upon return and my parents haven't laid eyes on each other in 4 months because of COVID. I knew moving into that place was huge mistake, but my older sisters insisted because they don't have the critical thinking skills to really understand what it entailed and think that's just what everyone should do. It was a huge mistake and their lives came to a pretty tragic ending. I can see that both of the have given up and it's just a matter of time. Tragic. People, stop forcing your loved ones into these situations.[/quote]

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