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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t understand. [b]Why does it matter to you what her own dad spends on her from his own money? Tell him you will contribute $100 for lunch and let him pay for the spa treatment if he wants to. [/b]Done. IMO, all gifts to all kids should be from both of you, so why the hand-wringing over the present from “you and the kids”? It’s like you are trying to separate the family more than is necessary. [/quote]

Reading between the lines it sounds like her DH expects her (the stepmom) to contribute significantly to this present. That’s a big part of why she’s annoyed.

The second part is a feeling of inequity towards her own children. She said that she was the only one who bought presents for her and DH’s 2 children. I would not be okay with having separate finances and my husband spending nothing on our shared children. Watching him spend lavishly on his firstborn would be like rubbing salt in the wound. However, AND this is a big caveat — this is a husband problem! Yes, it must be dealt with and you should talk about it — BUT it has NOTHING to do with your stepdaughter.

Your stepdaughter’s gift should come “from both of you” It doesn’t matter if you contribute $50 or $950 to fund her spa day. Both of you sign the same card and you give her ONE gift certificate from both of you. How you divide up who pays for it is private. And I agree with PP, you should offer what you’re comfortable with, and it’s on him to cover the rest — if he wants to.

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