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[quote=Anonymous]Had taken a little mental vacation and forced myself not to reply so many times in a day. We (my DD and I) have been having little chats for two days about the incident.
Here is a kind of step by step transcript (heard from my DD) for others to understand:
DD walks into class and noticed that the other girl (OG) at “her” desk. This upsets DD. She walks alone to the OG (friends had not arrived yet and others students were trickling in since this class is right after lunch) and 
DD: Why do you decide to sit here every once in a while when all your friends sit over there?
OG: I feel like it.
DD: No one around this desk is you r friends… are you trying to annoy?
OG: No, I can sit wherever I want. You can sit at the other desk, I do not care.
DD: I do not want to sit there… this is where all my friends sit. You move there, I sit here everyone is happy.
OG: Now you are going to tell me how I am going to be happy. Who do you think you are? You are trying to create trouble. I am not moving from here. I dare you to move me an inch.
DD: You are such a slut… I do not want to waste my time talking to you. 
DD got out the classroom to drink some water and came back. By that time her friends had already come. She took another seat and class started. This was very one-to-one verbal fight. There were probably three other girls in the class (one of them was called during investigation). 
Later that day I got a call from the school for a parent conference the next day. Apparently the OG had texted her parents and went to the office to report DD. He parents showed up with a bully form and the school started the process of investigation.
Yes, I have talked to my DD that 
-	she should not have considered the set as hers
-	she should not have demanded the OG to move
-	she should not have used inappropriate word (may be to hurt the OG)
-	she could have thought the OG as one of her friends and not an outsider entering their “zone” and that might have made my DD more accepting.
I also have told her that she needs to understand any trigger that can irk her and think about not talking to anyone immediately.  I have given her assignment (as one of the consequences for her mistake) to write a list of curse words she knows and the appropriate usage of the words. I also asked her to write a scenario where she is in the OG’s place and what she would want the OG to say.
What my heartburn is that school was not empathetic about the social repercussion of labeling an otherwise ok kid a bully for a small incident (DD has not anything like this before) and the parents of the OG taking it so far. 
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