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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You should be more pissed at your nanny.

She can unload the dishwasher once in a while or bring the trash cans in.  And she shouldn’t have put your son down for his nap several hours early.  This is why people have nannies.

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My son fell asleep while out on a walk, and the babysitter I have coming today is not our regular nanny.

Our regular nanny is a different story. She's not helpful at all. She leaves laundry all over the couch and spends the entire 2 hours my son naps on her phone or laptop. She does not help with any small chores. [/quote]

You sound like a really nice person, and I am sure there is a reason you got into a helping profession.  But you need to man up and take some control of your family.  Your husband, your child, and your nanny are walking all over you.

Your nanny should leave the house at least as tidy as she found it, and she should be doing some of the things that a SAHM would do during the day.  I’m not saying that she should be deep cleaning your home, but certainly she should be unloading the dishwasher, putting grocery deliveries away, bringing trash in or out when she takes your child in a walk, etc.

Your toddler should have a schedule with predictable nap times.  Your nanny should be taking the lead on this, really.  And you need to find a way that he “helps” or he entertains himself while you do some things around the house.  Mine used to like to play with bubbles in the sink while I would clean the kitchen.

As for your husband, I would enlist his help in creating a more professional relationship with your nanny and creating some more order and structure in your home.  You two are a team, and you should both be playing to your strengths.  You, as a nurse, are probably very good at being kind and nurturing and seeing the best in people.  But your household is suffering without a counterbalance to provide some discipline, routine, and fun.

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