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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ive never felt that I didn't have enough time with my three children, that I've felt too stretched to give them the emotional and one-on-one support a child needs.  To be honest, I think I could provide that even if I had had a fourth if the spacing of the children were right.  I think spacing is a huge thing - mine are 2-3 years apart.  I'm sure if they were closer, I would feel more frazzled.  But then again, a friend of mine has triplets and she feels like she has a great relationship with all three of her boys.

What helps - they play more with and entertain each other.  So I can bond with one when the other two are playing ball outside together, for example.  With two siblings, there is usually at least one willing to play with a child at a time.

You might need to get more creative about finding that time with each child.  My oldest is now a teen.  I can connect with her on a drive to her dance studio, for example.  We catch up about her friend dramas or test anxiety in about a half hour of a solid chat.  It doesn't take a lot of one-on-one time to feel connected, but those drives, just the two of us, are really helpful.  [/quote]

That’s wonderful. What about your ability to emotionally support them? My DD is “spirited” with massive feelings. Sometimes I’m spent after helping her all day, but she won’t be this age forever. [/quote]

Not an issue.

I honestly don't feel strained in this way with 3 kids. Maybe with 4-5 I would be, but not with just 3. FYI my oldest is spirited like yours.  It absolutely gets easier with age when they can learn to express themselves in a more healthy way.[/quote]

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