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[quote=Anonymous]PP here. Yeah, I'm sorry if it feels like we are piling on the OP for more detail but this really is a situation where context matters. "words were exchanged" then "the word slut was a curse word used". Did your DD mutter "slut" under her breath? Or did she push herself into the girl's personal space and scream "you stupid slut!". Where were her friends at the time? Were they standing behind her? Were they cheering her on?

OP keeps making it sound like they had a conversation in which the word slut was used. This may be true. But I would need to believe that (i) OP's DD perceived the incident this way (ii) OP's DD told the objective unvarnished truth to OP (iii) OP is relaying the unbiased objective truth to us. This is a big ask.

Could the OP just help us out and basically map out a bit more of the actual conversation as she believes it happened. Like DD said "A", then other girl said "B".

Female bullying can be sneaky. Girls aren't necessarily going to punch and kick. They are going to be Mean Girls. They will exclude and humiliate, and tell people to "get out of my seat" (maybe stuff like "no one wants you here?), and call people "slut, whore, bitch" etc. That's how girls bully. And no offense, parents often just cannot believe that their little angel would be mean like that!

Put it this way, I can take the facts of your example and think of it being a truly bullying incident. Maybe a popular girl walks over to an unpopular girl in front of a group of classmates and says "Get out my seat. Go away". Maybe she looks around at her friends and they all laugh along with her at the unpopular loser who is in their seats. Maybe other friends are nodding along while this girl has no defenders. And when the girl refuses to move, she starts personal insults culminating in calling her a slut. Or ugly. Or a loser.

I went to an all girls Catholic school. This is TOTALLY plausible.  [/quote]

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