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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you saying she broke up with you out of the blue, without ever telling you how she was feeling? Did you have any idea that she was unhappy? If that’s the case, then you shouldn’t be together anyway.[/quote]

OP here. We talked once about it and I told her that [b]I told her I thought it was fair since I paid for everything[/b]. I was still cleaning and cooking but she did it most of the time. [/quote]

Oooh.  Smart woman. She dodged a bullet.  I am sure there were many other things about you that she did not like.  [/quote]
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Not sure when men *and* women are going to figure out that the "he pays for everything/she does everything" arrangement never works out. It's a breeding ground for resentment and bean counting. SAHP's can't related to the stresses of the work world and income pressure, WOHP's can't related to the endless deluge of domestic tasks. You gotta split it up, and no that doesn't mean both people need 70 hr/week jobs. But you have to divide and conquer as a team. Life is too long to not help each other. [/quote]

OP here. I still did plenty around the house. We have a housekeeper. I would still cook and clean 2-3 times a week while she did it the other days. We went grocery shopping together or ordered groceries. I never once asked her for anything. I pay the mortgage, all the bills, our cell phones, etc. [/quote]

Grocery shopping together isn't the same as you doing the grocery shopping. She's still doing work. Plus there's a lot more than just grocery shopping - there's planning the meals, figuring out what you need, making the list, etc. Were you doing any of that?

Was her name on the house? If not, why should she pay *your* mortgage? If she did would you give her a cut when you sell?

Having a second person doesn't affect the bills that much. Maybe water and electricity go up a little. Internet, tv, etc are still the same. Most cell phone plans have deals for free second lines.

Was she working?

Your story is changing. You admitted you liked being taken care of and took her for granted, but now you're saying she didn't do THAT much. Which, btw, is a terrible way to "win her back". You're repeating the same sh!t that made her dump you in the first place - minimizing what she does and justifying things because you pay for things. She doesn't want a relationship where money has strings attached.

Bottom line is that you two want different things and aren't compatible. Move on.

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