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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't want to be the center of attention, but I am also not a baby nurse and if I just gave birth, yes you should ask me how I am doing. Ffs.  People are just rude and selfish.  [/quote]

Yes! I didn't want to be the center of attention after my child was born, and was more than happy to have people cooing over the baby rather than peppering me with questions or trying to involve me in conversations (I was so tired). But my family didn't even acknowledge I'd done anything. I also had PPD and even when I would tell people about it, they'd just kind of gloss past it. I felt so alone.

Now my mom and MIL get frustrated sometimes because they aren't as close to my kid as I know they'd like to be. I'm not keeping them away from their grandkid, but I learned that they were not going to be a form of support for our family early on. I'm not talking about childcare, but just kindness. I'm not going to invest a ton of energy in relationships where I am constantly ignored and disrespected. I think it would be different if they had treated me as something more than a vessel for their grandkids. But they didn't.[/quote]

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