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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The real kick in the teeth is that they won’t let you FaceTime him in (at least that was true at WHC). Something about a rule about recordings.

My DH waited in the parking lot. It was in case something was very wrong, he would be there and I wouldn’t have to drive home alone. So that’s something you could consider.

I do agree with everyone that you just have to deal with it. [/quote]

That's strange.  [/quote]

It opens up a lot of liability. That doesn't mean providers are doing anything wrong, but all it takes is one family upset with an outcome -- even if nothing was missed, even if nothing could have prevented it -- to bring a lawsuit in. And lawsuits are expensive, even if not actually justified by the evidence, so often hospitals or providers will settle, because it is cheaper than drawing it out, even if you win.

Then that becomes a part of public record, and it is something the provider has to cite and defend every time they renew a license, or transfer jobs, or what have you.

Often the rules can be bent when there is specific need and good reason, but they aren't going to bend it for a typical case, because then everyone will want it. [/quote]

This all makes sense.

And also, here's what. For millennia, women didn't have technology to find out information and updates before birth. For millennia, men weren't part of the process at all. Not saying that it's not wonderful that we do have technology and medicine and the involvement of fathers now...I'm just saying get over it, this is fine. Your husband does not have to be in the room for all of this to be special. He can wait for you outside if there is anything difficult or concerning. Just get through this. Understand that this is about far more than YOU. The health and safety of other patients and their families and of the medical staff and their families far outweighs your "need" for attention and reassurance for, let's face it, pretty darn routine medical care.[/quote]

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