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[quote=Anonymous]It has been more than two-and-a-half years since my husband had an affair.  I did not resist when my husband said he needed the freedom experience some opportunities; both because he made it clear that he could not be with someone who tells him what to do, and because he said that he was not willing to give up the potential for happiness with someone else.  (Set love free and it will come back to you, if it is meant to be.)  In truth, I was certainly in a state of shock-and-survival, and wanted simply to maintain some semblance of calm and structure for our children.

My husband has since lived away from our family (I have raised the children almost entirely by myself during this time, though he continues to provide financially, for which I am grateful), has enjoyed relationships with several women, and casually dated others.  Most recently he was visiting and vacationing with his initial affair partner.  He offers out the hope that perhaps he will come back, though he cautions that he cannot do so if he will always be reminded of it.  I am happy and willing to forget the past and put it behind us.  And I continue to harbor the eternal hope (and love) for reconciliation.

But in the end OP, I do not think that my husband will ever return, because I think that men who have experienced the freedom of an  extended sexual relationship(s) outside of the marriage do not care to come back to a monogamous, lifetime commitment to their spouse.  Have the courage and strength OP to make healthy, good decisions for yourself and your children, whatever those may be.[/quote]

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