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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Every day it is a different man wanting the same level of sex and intamacy and energy out of their wives that they had while dating. 
Yet no one realizes that she does not have the same work load, burden, etc that she did while dating. 
I haven't had 8 hours of sleep in almost 8 years. First it was babies not sleeping through the night. Then it was DH gaining weight and developing snoring (refusing to do anything until recently), then it was a work promotion and working longer hours etc. 
I haven't had a day to myself in over a year due to kids, DH working from home and inlaw visits. 
I have to cook or find food for 5 people daily, even if it is cereal or a sandwhich a 2 year old can't do that himself. 
I have to do laundry for myself and 3-4 others routinely (DH hates laundry and will ask me to do his too at least 1x a month)
I have to buy more birthday gifts and send cards then I care to (and we have cut back) but with kids in school and friends/family it all adds up.

These are just a few things that deplete my energy and wanting to have sex. We do have sex right now 1-2 times per week but any more than that I just don't have any more to give. 
Now, if I had my own place again, only cooked for myself, did laundry for myself, slept in until 9 on the weekends, where a day off of work was all about ME. Then hell ya. I would have a ton more energy to throw at a guy or a husband or whoeever but you know what? That is not what marriage and having a family is. I am sick of the woman always getting blamed for not being willing to light herself on fire to keep others warm without 1 bit of empathy from the men on this thread about all that the woman in their life does to keep it going. [/quote]

OP, it really doesn't sound like you mind is in a good place, but many on here have let you know where the road you are choosing often leads.
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Because I chose this alone? I somehow got myself pregnant alone? I am sitting here refusing his help with all of the above? 
Nope on all accounts. I actually ask for his help in areas and he just doesn't deliver. I ask for a few hours to myself for him to take the kids and Nope. I take a long bath and that is about the only alone time I get. If i don't come to bed right after the kids go down to watch a show with him (and instead read or do somethng I enjoy) I am ignoring him :( Boohoohoo. 
Covid is part to blame but so is he. [/quote]

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