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[quote=Anonymous]I had a wonderful therapist for the end period of my A and afterward when I had a d-day. During the A, she questioned me often on why I thought was doing okay. I gave her reasons that at the time I thought were valid (though now I see they were all self-justifications for my choices). She would gently probe and I would always leave thinking that I needed to end things, but I never did, which was 100% on me. She couldn't change my mind unless I wanted to change my mind.

After the A ended and I had my d-day, she again was very supportive yet consistently asked me to think through my actions and thoughts. She would allow me to vent and cry and yet always said things that made me think after the appointment. She never "okayed" what I did and always challenged me if I thought that was the best course of action.

I am so thankful for her. She never made me feel judged, though in retrospect I can see how she tried to direct me toward making healthier choices (I just wasn't in a mindset to do so at that time). I worked hard on myself in the aftermath and I do credit her for talking me through things and challenging my old mindsets and coping skills. I now am active on an affair website where I message with MW, and I always try to channel her kindness and empathy.[/quote]

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