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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I think it depends on whether your partner is moving from not accepting a diagnosis to not agreeing to services/pushing for services because partner doesn't think they are necessary. That would be a major issue in my opinion.[/quote]
This.

The purpose of an evaluation is not just to assign a label, but to identify strengths and weaknesses so that you can select appropriate treatments.  If you reframe the evaluation as focused on guiding future treatments, would he be more willing to do it?[/quote]

He already has the label/diagnosis in his medical file.

I’m older than my spouse and since everything, have this vision of me not surviving and my son seeing this diagnosis and saying why didn’t you tell me.  My spouse may never accept it, but I don’t want my child to think we are ashamed of him or love him any less.

My true worry is the older he gets, it may get more difficult for him. Yes he does okay in school and has friends but is also very trusting in a childlike way.  I don’t think my spouse would accept confirmation of autism in a neuropsychological evaluation, but we wouldn’t need to share it.  It might actually help for planning for the future and understanding his needs now.  It would give me piece of mind knowing that we had it and for my son to understand himself.  My spouse has online groups that think like she does.  I didn’t realize so many people here deny the diagnosis too.  It’s not just a meaningless label.[/quote]

I am not understanding your concern.  You already have the diagnosis.  But, you're concerned because your wife won't get an evaluation that would give the diagnosis?

Anyway, I am a PP who thinks it's no big deal not to chase a diagnosis.  But, I would definitely be pursuing a neuropsych if I could afford it and there is evidence of disabilities and I needed information on how to address those disabilities.  The best part of the neuropsych eval is the recommendations that you get for school and also for understanding your  child.  I know when I got a true understanding of just how slow my son's processing speed is, I was better able to have conversations with him.  When I learned how difficult it is for him to get his thoughts from his head to a paper, I was better able to help him pick classes in high school.  But the only diagnoses that really made a difference were the confirmation of certain mental health diagnoses, which was not even a part of the neuropsych.  We paid extra for it and it is beneficial because it guides medication decisions.  [/quote]

How is getting a differential diagnosis 10 years later “chasing a diagnosis?”[/quote]

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