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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is not a knock on moms  that choose to stay home of their own volition.

I'm talking about guys who marry a woman with a career.  Guys that get with a woman knowing her career is important to her, that she spent years getting into her position, same as he did,  that just assume she'll stay home because he doesn't like  daycare or his mom stayed home, and his brother's wife stays home, or because he makes money?

Why is it overwhelmingly the woman who is expected to sacrifice her career ,even if it's not what she wants.

To be fair, [b]I know one dad who altered his career to stay home when his kids were small instead of expecting his wife, too, but why is this so rare?[/b][/quote]

I can tell you why. 
Why does the wife stay home 
- She makes substantially less than the husband because of career choice.
- She is being paid less than other male counterparts and she is facing the glass ceiling at work
- She is the one who is lactating, who gave birth, who is exhausted, who did not heal from the labor because she did not have maternity leabe
- She is the one who is dealing with toxicity at work and hostile/sexist work environment
- The baby or an older child has special needs and someone needs to be home
- A family member is sick or elderly and she needs to be the care provider
- Childcare is frequently failing and/or her children are failing to thrive mentally, physically or emotionally

Why does the husband stay home
- He is making less substantially less money than the wife
- He has pension from army, police or firefighting and he is retired, while wife has a great career
- He has dreams of starting his own private company or has some gig lined up or he is writing a book
- He has disability that necessitates that he stays at home.

Men stay at home when they need to look after their interests. Women stay home to sacrifice her own interests for the family.  If women thought and acted like men, humans would become extinct.

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Thank you! At this point, I think women should strongly encourage their daughters to remain child free and focus on their careers for their own sanity. Women shouldn’t have to sacrifice their interests for generations while men selfishly do whatever the hell they want.[/quote]

I'm not sure this is the solution, I think we need more working moms to advocate for more working moms. I do think we shouldn't mommy track our daughters before they are moms.  Is till hear way  too often " are you sure that's a career you want it will be hard/easy to be a mom with that."   You never hear thos comments directed at boys. I also think it would better if we started raisng our kids a little differently, more balance.[/quote]

This conversation seems new to you; but it isn't new. We've been having this same conversation since the late 50s.[/quote]

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