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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I regret it. We had no idea who we were. Met in college, fell in love while studying abroad together. He was the first man I had ever slept with. Wr got married right after college. Married 16 years. Had 2 kids.  He ended up following me out to DC when I moved out here for grad school. He would have stayed in the Midwest forever, happily. He ended up getting a job as a random program manager for Dept of Labor. Worked his way up to mid level management. My career took off, got my 15 at a different agency that has me traveling all over the world. I earn more than him, regularly turned down opportunities to move abroad or even do 1-3 month assignments in fabulous locations like London, Paris, Sydney, Nairobi, etc., because it wouldn't have worked well for "us."

He ended up having an affair with his secretary, who was also married with kids even younger than ours. Broke my heart, but honestly, in retrospect,  I'm thankful that this happened while I'm still young and energetic enough to live my life the way I want.  I take my kids all over the world. I worked it in to the divorce agreement that I can take them overseas for a 2 year tour (with visits and summers back with their dad). I feel so freaking free and light.... it is the first time I have gotten to experience what it is like to live as a ME and not a WE as an adult. I love it.

[b]  Zero interest in remarriage. I date, but don't introduce anyone to my kids.  My goal is to raise them, get them off to college. None of this blended family crap that they didn't ask for or want. They are my top priority. This is my best life.  [/b]

Biggest challenge was the initial learning curve with online dating.

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I enjoyed your story.  I'm still happily married, but know this is it for me.  If it doesn't work out for whatever reasons, this is the approach I would take as well. Your life sounds full, and you certainly don't need a marriage or more kids to add to it.  Have a good evening![/quote]

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