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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As long as we can afford it, I’m never going back.

It’s just easy. Yes, it’s afforded DH many more work opportunities and advancements, and more money. I’m OK with that. You have to be OK with that. I had a dream job I worked my ass off achieving, and some days I miss it, but never more than I love the this lifestyle.

Echoing others, logistically it just makes sense. We don’t ever worry about anything like sick days or snow days, summer vacations or... remote learning. Also, yes, you’ll be so surprised how the time gets away from you. Suddenly it’s 3:30 and you have to leave to get the kids from school in 15 minutes. I definitely keep busy and I’m never bored, but I also enjoy my own company. Introvert here! [/quote]

Ugh, women like this are setting society back by decades.[/quote]

No, women like this are not setting society back.  Women should get the choice.  I grew up in a family where my parents were really pissed when I quit.  My mom was retired but hated being a mom and wouldn't help with child care (after saying she would) and my child care feel through right before I went back to work and she wouldn't help for a few weeks so I could go back.  She resented me and still does for not going back but because I was home it allowed my husband to take better jobs every few years and work his way up.   I could handle all the things at home and help his family when his mom needed help and us not worry.  Women should have the choice if they can financially afford it.  My mom hated being a mom and doing the day to day caretaking.  I love it and see how it benefits my kids and husband but more importantly me.  I was miserable working.  I can easily keep myself busy and am far busier now than working as my focus is different.  I want to raise my kids and not be raised by nannies and day care like I was.[/quote]

The problem with your entire diatribe is that you confine this to women. All you talk about is you and your mom. What about your dad? What about your DH. Ask yourself why men are not asked to consider what’s best for their children when they make choices about their careers?

Sounds like you have issues wIth your mom specific to you and not to an argument about women’s advancement.

And how many men are miserable working?  Quite a few I’d guess.  Why do they have automatically have keep slogging?[/quote]
These are questions you should have discussed with your husband before you procreated with him. My husband and I discussed this before we had children, and we decided together that I’d stay home and he would continue working. He’s fine with it. I’m fine with it. We discussed it beforehand.

I have a friend who made it clear she wouldn’t have kids if it meant having to quit working. They both had demanding careers. He decided to take an early retirement and SAH. They COMMUNICATED beforehand.

If you and your husband didn’t hash this out before doing the deed and now either of you are upset, that’s a marriage issue, not a Women’s Rights issue. It’s a communication issue.

And you act as if it would be completely typical for a miserable childless man OR woman to just quit a job they don’t like and, I don’t know, stop paying bills and become homeless, because they didn’t like working anymore? Functioning people suck it up like a grown ass adult with bills to pay until they find a better job. Some of the most miserable jobs I ever had, I had before I had kids. Guess what? I had to slug along because I had shit to pay for, so I bitched about work to my friends like a normal person and went on interviews often. What’s preventing them from doing this WITH children?[/quote]

We didn't talk about it at all as my parents were pressuring me to work and my husband kept saying it was a choice but I always shut him down.  I was raised where it wasn't a choice and I have little respect for my parents in the choices they made as looking back we weren't a priority.[/quote]

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