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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a professional (think Finance/Law/CPA) and my salary varies but never less the mid-six figures. I am 45 and divorced with two teen sons (1 in college and 1 in high school).  I have a beach house and a nice primary home, my DCs went/go to private school. I don’t bring up my career or my beach house or the private school but I sense some hesitancy from some guys when they figure it out.  I know the answer is to find someone who doesn’t care but I wonder if  I am being ruled out in the early stages before they get to know me because of it.  Thanks [/quote]

OP, unlike most of the other PPs, I am a man. Moreover, I am a divorced man age 55, and I am seeking out women just like you online (age 45-55 who have graduate degrees). I do see women like you who clearly earn more than me (I.e. women who have MDs or are law partners or VPs). I love my job as a contractor and am happy with how much I make (~$180k). My concern would be that you are looking for a similar high-earner type of man (another VP or law partner type) and would not be satisfied with a guy who makes “respectable money” but less than you.

So yes it is possible guys are ruling you out at an early stage. Call it insecurity if you like.

Don’t know what you can do about it though. [/quote]

Thank you for this response.  I will tell you that I don’t care if someone makes as much or more than me. Respectable money is just fine.  My Ex made way more money than I did and look how that turned out. [/quote]

To the man who posted....you are being silly. 180k is a perfectly fine salary. I actually think women who make more money than that might be MORE likely to date you than women who make, say, five figures, because the women who make five figures may care more about having their incomes supplemented more.

I am dating someone who makes around 100k. I will admit, that gives me pause a bit simply because he hasn’t saved much for retirement so I worry about having to spend my savings to care for him in old age. But 180k esp if you have saved reasonably well for retirement is fine.

That’s just me though.[/quote]

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