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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you don't want it, decline. You say you have enough on your plate already. I would not bank on 4 people or 10 people not dying. You just say no rather than saying yes and praying everyone stays healthy. [b]It's not just that they can't die...they can't become disabled or develop cancer or do a million things. Once you are on the list, you are a total asshole for declining. Just don't get on the list and you may be guilt tripped, but in the end you are not wasting time praying everyone is able-bodied if the time comes.[/b][/quote]

This.  Look at how many households have been completely upended in the past few months.  I've never understood the whole, "Oh, we are just the secondary guardians..." line of reasoning as a reason to accept.  If you're on the list, I think you have to assume you might end up being first.  I'd argue that very few households are set up well enough (emotionally, logistically, and so on) to absorb a kid or several who have undergone seriously emotional or physical trauma (if, say, the parents die in an accident the kids may have been involved in).  Don't be so sure that the couple in line ahead of you won't be yelling "not it!" if sh*t gets real.

[quote]I should add I know of a real life case where all people on list were unable even though living. My cousin adopted later in life and to be polite her friends agreed to be on the list because she was estranged from her sister and brother. Cousin became ill and unable to care for her daughter and he friends bailed for health reasons, eldercare issues, etc. These things happen. Let her find people who absolutely will take the child and who's lives can adapt accordingly.[/quote]

This is very sad but not altogether surprising.  I think very few people think through everything that would be involved in a scenario like this.[/quote]

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