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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have literally never understood this. I would rather be alone than with a man who was not an equal partner in all regards. [b]How can you have a child with someone who you cannot trust to leave alone with the child you created?[/b][/quote]

You don't know what kind of father they'll be before the baby arrives. It's a risky venture. When the risk doesn't pay off, women have to make the best of the hand they're dealt.

Stories like PP's with the husband whose child drowned, and almost ALL of the babies left in the car seat to die in overheated cars because the Dad forgot to do the day care drop-off are why women take on the responsibilities themselves. It's life or death.

All that said, I did find that Dads have an important contribution to parenthood in the teen years. Women have to raise the kids to like 13 or 14 and then start handing them over to Dad. It's not ideal, but it's what I've noticed in 20 years in the parenting world.[/quote]

I still disagree with this.  Every woman who has a husband who can’t take care of kids properly is a complete enabler and control freak.  They also usually are a SAHM.

They also typically have your black or white thinking.  I mean you really think leaving your kids with your husband is going to kill them?  If he’s so dangerous he shouldn’t be living with them.  [/quote]

I have an incredibly involved husband who is a wonderful dad to our kids and has taken on the brunt of child care these last few months only because my job has been busier than his. I say that to explain that your comment doesn't affect me personally at all. However, it was incredibly hateful and mean. I understand that the moms who refuse to leave their kids because the dads don't do things perfectly are probably not to be pitied, but there are genuinely women, like some of the PPs who posted on this very thread, who are married to men who are not the kinds of fathers they imagined. And for you tos ay that they must be complete enablers or control friends is so unkind. [/quote]

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