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[quote=TheManWithAUsername][quote=Anonymous][quote=TheManWithAUsername]To the people who think it's sad that some SAHMs think they're lucky...Jesus - could you be more bigoted?[/b][/quote]

I wouldn't say bigoted, as in intolerant, but I would certainly say that for many SAHMs on DCUM, the decision to SAH came about because they were unable to find a way to negotiate a working situation that accommodated young children. It was difficult to secure part-time work or to transition back to the office as if nothing had changed. They are now utterly financial dependent upon their partners, who hopefully, but may not always have their best interests in mind. They have given up the promise of education, both college and graduate, from some of the most selective schools in the country and given up a decade or more of professional experience to be at home with young children, cook, and clean.

I'm not saying that being at home with kids isn't deeply satisfying, but I would hardly describe the process as "lucky." Lucky, perhaps, to be married--at the moment--to someone who can support such a lifestyle, but certainly not fortunate to have to give so much up, including one's independence and one's identity outside the home. [/quote]
Maybe you wouldn't, but the point is whether they do, whether they're grateful for the opportunity. And it is an opportunity, BTW - if you don't think so, ask the many mothers in marriages in which both parents have to work. You talk about those who were relatively stuck with SAH, but presumably those aren't the ones calling themselves lucky.

To treat their evaluation of their circumstances - circumstances of which you presumably know very little first hand - is the essence of bigotry, which is less about intolerance and more about narrow-mindedness.[/quote]

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