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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"Most of the poor in this country are women. It's not a coincidence. "

Agree, it's not. There are several systemic reasons why women, and especially women with kids, are way more at risk for poverty. But still, the list only applies to low income women. So there is a entire population of women who that list doesn't apply to. [/quote]

There are a lot of women who are well educated high-earners who notice a disparity between men and women with regard to expectations for childcare. This seems to be what many, many DCUM women struggle with--whether to WOTH or SAH, being mommy-tracked, finding a job that will accommodate young children, arguments with DH over "menial" work at home, the need to take a break, etc., etc.

While poor, uneducated women have things particularly bad, please don't close your eyes to the fact that even privileged women have to face struggles that men do not. Most men I know do not seriously contemplate giving up their career to stay at home with the kids. Virtually all the women in my peer group (educated professionals) have struggled with this.[/quote]

I agree with you, but I guess I don't see the point od this thread. People seem to be bitching and whining. I'm all for advocating for change, but just listing that men can have orgasms every time they have sex and they aren't expected to multi-task...sorry but I'm just not seeing the male privileges being discussed. All I can do is like I said, advocate for change. I work outside the home at a cause that is important to me, I have a husband who is a true partner and does the second shift with me, I am somewhat politically active. Seems more productive to me than just piling on how great men have it.

Privileged men kind of have it shitty too in other ways. My husband got laid off last year and got sought out by another company and had a better job in a week, but rather than relishing in that accomplishment, and just acknowledging that his whole team got laid off, he went into a serious funk - so much so that he actually started seeing a therapist because he had the foresight to see he was struggling with depression. I just don't think it would have hit me like that, and I did a bunch of reading on men and lay offs etc., and it opened my eyes. It was an interesting perspective on a stress I just don't have to the same degree. And I am now watching my own dad attempt to be the world's greatest grandfather, because he has so much pain and regret about what kind of dad he was. He was a good dad but he was always working and he missed a lot, and he's paying for it now. So we joke that men get to "babysit" etc. but it affects some of them. It is not ideal. It is nothing to be proud of or say they are privileged over.

I consider myself a feminist and I get outraged sometimes at the unfairness - the mommy tracking, wage disparity, all the things you mentioned. So I get that. But this thread is nothing but a weird pity-party and I don't see the point in going there.[/quote]

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