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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m in a sexless, but not loveless marriage - there’s a huge difference and I hate reading the posts where people are using the terms interchangeably.  My husband and I also like (not just love) one another and joke and have fun, so I don’t think our child is going to have lasting difficulties because his parents don’t have sex.

FWIW, I’m the wife and not the reason the marriage is sexless.  [/quote]

Not to derail the thread, but...how are you coping with this?  You seem ok with it, or perhaps I misread that.  I am in your boat too and a life of celibacy seems so lonely and devoid of life's greatest pleasure[/quote]

PP: I have reconciled and accepted it - the first few years were hard and demoralizing.  I knew my husband had “issues” when we married, although I didn’t think it would completely end within the first year, so we didn’t go from a very active sex life to nothing, which I think would have been harder to deal with.

It’s been 14 yrs since we last had sex and I’ve accepted that I will probably never have intercourses again, ever.  But, overall, i think our marriage has many more positives than this one, big negative.  I also understand that there will be people who don’t understand how/why I accept this, just as I don’t understand why people will leave a marriage when the only bad thing is the lack of sex – neither reaction is right or wrong, we each have to choose what’s best for each of us and our own circumstances.

Regarding celibacy and loneliness, I am a major introvert and someone who does not need a lot of human interaction and affection - that’s not a major “driver” in my life, so that part isn’t difficult for me.  My husband and I still connect intellectually and he still makes me laugh and that’s more important to me, whereas you may need more emotional connection (not a slam, just a difference).  
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