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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Agree [b]she is probably worried about him changing his will, and/or otherwise jealous[/b].
I would be honest with dad. Tell him you are going to reduce contact because you get the feeling it makes stepmom uncomfortable, and no one, not even an adult child, should come between two married people. Cut back on the in person visits, send birthday and father's day cards, send pictures, do a Zoom call quarterly, whatever you want. I wouldn't cut him out completely but I'd pull back.

Step mom is an evil witch but he married her. [/quote]

This. She is jealous, because he said he never wanted kids with her. Also, she thinks you are a golddigger because you are just now contacting him at this late date. This second one, of course, is unfair, because many adoptees feel as you do that they aren't comfortable contacting their birth parents until their parents (the only ones they've ever known)  die. Most of them simply want genetic information, or feel this strong pull to meet their bio parent, and are not looking for money.

At this point, you need to fade away. If he invites you, tell him that you know you make his wife uncomfortable and you don't want to come between them. Remember, you already had a loving dad in your life.

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No, the OP indicated that both didn't want children. [/quote]

They don't want the drama.  This woman sounds pretty messed up.[/quote]

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