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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Classic, classic ADHD- inattentive symptoms. I'm a DW with this and I do the same exact thing. If DH got mad every time I forgot something, we'd be divorced. He realizes that it's not me being willful or spiteful or disrespectful, it's literally the way my brain is wired.

He's just learned how to work with my brain instead of against it. [/quote]

So how does he “work with your brain” so you contribute positively to things?[/quote]

He reminds me a lot. And I don’t take offense when he does remind me. 
If I’ve started a to do list (and not lost it), he’ll only add 1 or 2 things (instead of 10, or I’ll get overwhelmed). And he’s okay if it takes me a week or two to complete it (unless there is a deadline then he starts early and tells me of the deadline). He knows if I’m in the middle of doing something, don’t distract me or once I stop, it’ll never get finished. Like if I suddenly realize not only do I have to vacuum the living room rug, but scrape it down to get the embedded cat hairs out, don’t stop me. In his mind dealing with the cat hair isn’t necessary, just vacuum the damn rug. But if I stop with the cat hair, the vacuuming won’t get done. (And I’m better about not starting that catch my fancy, buying all the stuff and stopping midway) He’s good about breaking things down in chunks and feeding them to me.

Luckily, I’m really good with projects like planning vacation, buying cars or appliance or house, dealing with taxes or getting the mortgage/re-finance mortgage and I dealt with his Dad’s illnesses and hospitalizations.  If it was up to him, he’d buy the first car he saw or pick the first hotel at the vacation location and not plan anything else. And his Dad would’ve died 4-5 years earlier if i hadn’t jumped in.

So we know each other’s strengths and weaknesses and do our best to work with them instead of against them. [/quote]

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