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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You had the opportunity to decide whether you wanted to parent. That comes once, if you are lucky.

You don't get two opportunities to make that call (once for you and once for them).  Accept that that time in your life has passed.

[b]Do volunteer work with children.  There are many in need of love and responsible role models.[/b][/quote]

This. There are lots of ways to scratch that itch.[/quote]

NP It really doesn't  change the paradigm...the family just stops. [b]No family gatherings,  vacations at the beach. Never though this would be it[/b]. [/quote]

Why can't you vacation and gather with your children. ..[/quote]

That's what I don't understand, don't you have adult children and other family to vacation with, gather with.  If you aren't doing those things now that probably won't change once grand kids come along.[/quote]

You really do not get it. Yes, we can go to the beach with our kids. This has NOTHING to do with having grandchildren. Your world view is amazingly limited.  [/quote]

My world view is amazingly limited.  How kind of you.  You think I don't get it.

I was responding to the person saying there is no family gathering, no vacations at the beach, never thought it this would be it.  I am saying isn't there other family to gather with, aren't there siblings with adult children who had kids to gather with.  I understand the nuclear family stops but what can be done about it, it is a loss, I understand that.

I understand the loss because I was unable to have children of my own.  At least you had children.  I understand that my lineage stops with me, I haven't carried anything on.  However I went to other family and joined in.  I guess you can sit there and wallow throughout your years and stomp your foot that you aren't getting everything you want, when you want it and how you want it, you can throw digs on the internet at people simply trying to say hey that may be the case but you still have family, reach out, if you don't then yes you need to find other ways because what's the other option - wallow in your misery.

[b]Your[/b] world view is amazingly limited.  Is this the first time life has not given you what you want and you have to boo hoo about it.  At your age if you haven't learned how to deal with grief and loss then consider yourself extremely lucky. Well the rest of us have ridden this rodeo already and I would suggest you don't waste precious years wallowing and just be grateful you had a family to begin with and make the most of it but what would I know considering you've told me I have an amazingly limited worldview.

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