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[quote=Anonymous]The "deserve to be happy" argument is alarming. Why on earth would anyone believe that the only way they can be happy is to get married?

And frankly... once you have kids, your primary responsibility is to THEM until they are 18. They don't have any choice in the matter. They didn't screw up your relationship with their other biological parent. They need to have shelter, clothing, food, and an engaged parent until they are ready to leave home. If you can't provide this without getting remarried, stop dating and use that time to go back to school and learn a skill.

Your new boyfriend/girlfriend is not legally responsible for your child. They don't love them, and while perhaps they can learn to love them if they happen to be interested in developing that kind of relationship with your child and your child is open to it, the odds are that this person is only in the picture for YOU. Your kids are baggage to them. They don't want to pay for your kids to go to college.  Perhaps they are saving for their ownnkids to go to college, and they can save a lot more per month for them than you can for yours. Don't you think that will become an issue?

People who get remarried because they "deserve to be happy" are shortsighted, selfish, and insecure. If you have a romantic partner, either he is committed to you or not. Marriage will not make or break a solid committed relationship for 2 divorcees. [/quote]

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