Reply to Would you be ok with your SO having dinners with ex hisband/wife and the kids?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Would you be ok with your SO having dinners with ex hisband/wife and the kids?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m divorced, and I won’t introduce any partners to my kids until we’ve been dating 2 years and have a wedding date set. It’s nothing personal, I don’t want people in and out of my kids’ lives.

I do think family dinners 1-2x a month are ideal. I would do it, but my ex likes to pick fights.

When someone has kids, the kids will always come first. Always. It’s difficult to find a partner who understands that (I dated a guy recently who suggested I give up custody and only see my kids in the summer so I could move for his career. Uh.....)

Think very carefully if this is something you want to get into. You’ll always be second in his life and his kids will probably want nothing to do with you. If you can’t accept that, move on. [/quote]

Two years I can see but it doesn't seem weird to you that the first time your kids would meet their soon-to-be stepparent is once they are going to be their soon-to-be-stepparent? Seems like that's too late to me. What if the kids don't like them, wouldn't you want to know that before getting serious enough to set a wedding date?[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics