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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think I can see this working if it’s like once a month and no more. As long as you aren’t excluded once you’re married. I am married, but dinner with kids is like 99% about the kids. Dh and I don’t get a word in together. The kids talk nonstop and we learn about their days and what they like. Kids gain a lot from both their parents undivided attention.

If you don’t like it, don’t date someone with such a friendly relationship with their ex. My neighbors do it best. They rotate every other week. They bought houses on the same street. They spend the kids birthday together. And they have meetings together apart from their kid to coordinate her (discussions about how she’s doing in school, where to send her to camp, etc). And they have one dinner a month together. They are both ridiculously obsessed with their daughter. Even divorced they spend all their time on her. But I think it’s great. No kid should ever grow up thinking she’s less than completely loved. [/quote]

It seems like your neighbors should probably just get back together.

As for OP, I think after a year you need to have a serious talk with your boyfriend,   Nothing wrong with exes being close for the kids, but I wouldn't be cool the pretending I didn't exist especially if we're talking marriage. IF you want to be married you need to meet the kids and they need to meet you before you commit to that. Dinners  can be worked out for the comfort level of all above, some do just dad and kids, some do exes and kids, some do everybody  exes, new spouses, kids, and half/step-siblings[/quote]

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