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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dating over a year.

The appearance of nothing in their lives changing.[/quote]

The kids know their parents have divorced, right?

You’ve posted twice and I’m already finding your passive-aggression tiresome.[/quote]

I don't mean to have a tone.   To be honest I'm not sure, if they know or not, I initially assumed that they did.  I have not met the children yet.  This is not a graduation or birthday dinner. This is something they have been doing, ex wife has made it clear that I will never need to attend dinners. Both don't want to upset kids. We had previously discussed me meeting his kids.[/quote]

Ex doesn’t run the narrative one his love life if he doesn’t let her. I would seriously push back that if these are to continue besides big events you are to be invited. One by one. Giving him some time.  Until he realizes it. And if not deal breaker. It’s not getting better if he can’t stNd up to her now. [/quote]
Out new spouse. 
I’m now married with kids with a similar situation in the past. Nipped that real quick.  Post divorce maybe, but it’s been a year. They aren’t a family anymore sorry to break it to her. Kids always come first but that’s doesn’t mean dinners with Cordial and friendly yes. Give him time to understand and talk it out but it’s a dealbreaker if he cows to her over your feelings. He will never be able to have a real relationship with one foot in the past. [/quote]

And here I though wicked stepmothers were only in fairy tales....[/quote]

She's not wicked,a t least not from what she wrote. It's not healthy to pretend dad's new wife doesn't exist. We have to help kids deal with reality as painful as that reality may be.  A wife or girlfriend who might ebcome a wife is not the same as  dad's flavor of the week post divorce.

You projectiny your emotional issues on the kids ( pretending new wife doesn't exist, and won't have an impact in some way on your kids lives isn't healthy. [/quote]

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