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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I posted about my mom being like OP.  I forgot about the lying!  Oh man I lied about EVERYTHING to my mom.  Big and small.  [/quote]

Another PP and I also forgot about the lying. Just constant lies all day every day to avoid arguments. Started
off lying about minor school assignments or whether I practiced my instrument when she was out. Moves to lying all the time as a teen. Got myself in some pickles. I may have anyway, but I know I could never go to my mom with them so I figured out a solution. One that, in retrospect, was definitely not a good one.

Only plus side is I can come up with white lies so so easily. DH always wonders how I do that so quickly when needed but I have decades of daily practice. Don’t make your kids do that. [/quote]

I hadn't really realized the impact of how easily I lie until I had DS.   You know how reallly little kids ask questions and you just kind of make up an answer to them?  DH was shocked by how easily and quickly I came up with those lies.   [/quote]

Yes to all of this. And now my son is older and notices. And so I’m trying to be better. But lying about things to avoid conflict has become part of who I am. My DH and I have a great relationship and I don’t lie about important things with him ever. But I do catch myself in white lies that really aren’t necessary. [/quote]

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