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[quote=Anonymous]It’s strange that you mention your ex-wife’s age, op. Why did you do that? 
Is something wrong with her?

I ask since giving an adult’s age isn’t relivant to this topic and it isn’t something people mention in general conversation. Doing so makes her seem childlike which she very well may be.

As for your question, I’d not be ok with what your wife is doing.

I agree with the poster who says that your wife will probably leave the kids alone when she shouldn’t.

If I were you, I’d book a hotel room at the same hotel as your ex and kids and just be there so that the kids have a place to go should they need or want it.

I’m not sure you can prevent anything from happening, though that is true with married couples and adults kids may be exposed to. 
You can however be there and let your kids know that you have their back.

I also don’t understand why you won’t use the legal resources you have as a divorced dad, why you are so worried about your ex’s feelings. 
One reason people get divorced is so that they can protect their kids from the creepy adult. 
You talk a good game, yet you are unwilling to talk to a lawyer or go stay at the hotel.  Why is that?

Finally, you don’t get to decide what conversations your ex has with the kids. You wouldn’t get to decide that even if you were married to her.  You can only control what you will discuss with your kids and what caregivers discuss with your kids.

Many conversations just happen.  One of my kids will say something, I’ll respond and a conversation will happen. 
Your ex is free to discuss anything she’d like with her children, just as you are.

You seem to be a strange mix of controlling and impotent and I don’t mean this in a sexual context.

If you are truly worried about your kids, get your ass to the hotel where they will be staying and talk to your lawyer about what you can and cannot do in terms of keeping your kids safe. If you don’t like your lawyer, find another one.   [/quote]

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