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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I read something realted to this sometime ago which I found very interesting. It was about why highly successful women remain n relationships with toxic and abusive men and don't leave. These women often fall for the charisma and charm these men present at the beginning. As time goes on, their true colours show and yet these women still remain. Why's that?

An explanation was that [b]successful women don't give up easily[/b]. Since they've reached success, they know it takes a lot of hard work, dedication and efort to get to where they are. They put up with challenges and overcome obstacles tp reach success. So, apply this mentality when it comes to relationships.

If her husband is toxic, she tries to change him. She puts in a lot of effort to make the relationship work. She doesn't give up on marriage easily. She deals with the frustrations and tries her to do all she can do in her power to fix things. She dosen't leave because she dosen't want all the effort she's done to be gone to waste. She has hope that after so much effort, there will be light at the end of the tunnel.

That explains why successful people are in relationships with toxic people. I've seen it in real life. Highly successful engineers, doctors, marrying narcissists and remaining in these marriages for a really long time, when others feel they should have left ages ago as they've got plenty of other opportunities.[/quote]

I totally agree. Women will POUR resources into something. Unfortunately, when it's into a narcissist or other toxic person, it doesn't yield positive results. But women are willing to hang in there for a long time.[/quote]

I know someone like this. Successful, but very insecure, cares what everyone thinks. One of those women who has never spent a moment single. My sense is women like this see marriage as a triathlon that must be win. Always reading relationship books, dragging DH to counseling and seminars. [/quote]

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