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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I haven't had time to read all the comments so someone may have already said this.  I agree with you that rudeness is unacceptable.  Your kid is acting like a jerk. You shouldn't let him act that way without challenging him on that.

On the other hand, I wonder if you and your husband are being fair to him. Sounds like he is doing okay in school and sports.  No, he is not living up to your standards and he is in for a surprise if he thinks he will get into the very top schools with his grades such as they are. But the fact is that he is doing well and will get into some decent schools.

He will need to come to terms with matching his effort to his ambitions but you can't "punish" that in to him.  You can make it clear that his perceptions don't match reality but you can't force him to be different.  And I suspect he may be reacting oppositionally because he feels like you're too hard on him.

So here's my bottom line. I agree that it is frustrating to see your kid not live up to his potential (been there done that) but he's doing fine compared to a lot of other kids I know. I suggest holding the line on the rudeness but realizing that he's got to sort out the ambition stuff for himself and giving him some slack on that.

Good luck! Sounds like a tough time for you all!.[/quote]

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