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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Oh please, quit deliberately being obtuse at my suggestion that "studies" about pain really tell us anything about an individual and their experience. Either way, I know parents who have lost their kids and there is no way that infertility is worse than that. Sorry, but there is nothing worse than losing a child. I would say that about the stress of having a severely ill child too. I don't need studies to tell me that, since I'm human and all.[/quote]

What are you talking about?  You wrote you couldn't believe that there are lists of life stressors out there, but there are, it's a a well known matter in psychiatry and psychology.  And loosing a child is of course very very high on that list!  I don't recall where infertility is on that list, but it's not in the very top, of course (death of spouse is).
I really don't know why you are insulting me and throwing a fit. [/quote]

You originally stated that you read a study that compared infertility to losing (it's losing by the way, not loosing) a relative to cancer, and I just thought it was a silly thing to say. Of course there are studies out there studying everything, but would you really walk up to a person with cancer or who recently lost their spouse or child to cancer and say, "I know you feel bad, but studies show infertility is worse, so aren't you glad you aren't going through that?" I mean I just didn't feel like it informed the discussion. To justify this woman's reaction to her friend being pregnant by saying it is worse than cancer or the death of a relative is a pointless thing to say. I don't care what ANY study says, no one has a right to go around saying their experience or suffering is somehow worse or more unimaginable than another person's tragedy. It's sick. [/quote]

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