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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]@20:42,
I was describing from the point of view of my kids, with which I empathize because I am a child of divorce myself. Divorce was something that was done *to them* - inflicted on them - they had no power over what happened. If I moved in stepkids and now my kids had to share bedrooms and the bathroom, it would be just the same. *Done to them* and they didn't get to say no. They'd have a right to be angry at me for it.

As for the timeline, I was the one who wanted it in the agreement. I am not worried about stepmoms meeting my kids, I am worried about strange men being around my kids, and I wanted that put off as long as possible. It is in my interest to abide by it so that I can make sure XW keeps boyfriends away from our kids for the required duration, which I would absolutely go to court to do if I had to.[/quote]

You sound very controlling towards your ex wife. Turn off for me. [/quote]

The agreement works the same way for both of us. We both have to date someone for a lengthy period before introducing that person to the kids. I am as controlled by it as she is.[/quote]

I agree with the previous poster, too controlling for me and probably most women.  People who have been through divorce and come out the other side know what is appropriate to agree to in a divorce.  We also know that we can’t (or shouldn’t) control our exes to the point of dictating a timeline as to when they can introduce their next love interest to the kids.  I get the reasoning behind it but it will make a potential partner wonder how else you are enmeshed in your ex’s life.[/quote]

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