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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe contact the mother, if you must. I have a half sibling (different circumstances, but similar actions by my dad). Some of my siblings choose to contact her, which caused a rift between us. Ultimately, my siblings essentially ghosted half sibling in an attempt to fix things with our sibling group. Long story short: contact caused more pain than if they just left it alone.[/quote]

Sounds like you were opposed to contact and threw a snit when your full sibs went ahead anyway.[/quote]

I wasn't consulted or even given a heads up beforehand. It felt like a betrayal, honestly. They made a decision for me and I made my own decision when I was told what they did. I did not meet my half sibling. If they had discussed it with me, I would have discouraged them. They ultimately couldn't handle the new relationship and bailed. They hurt me, our half sister and each other. Some things are best left alone.[/quote]

They did not make a decision for you. They made a decision for them. If you didn’t want contact, fine, but you should have been supportive for them. Sounds like you ruined everyone. [/quote]

I've read all of your sock puppet replies. To be clear: my siblings are profoundly dysfunctional and unreliable. I was blindsided. If they'd have talked to me beforehand, I would've discouraged them because I knew they would hurt everyone involved. Our sister would have been better off continuing no contact. Instead, she was *abandoned* twice.

To the op: if you really want to pursue this, start with the mother. [/quote]

Well, I am not a sock puppet. Apparently there really are numerous people who really think you are an asshole - besides just one or two.  This is my answer,  and I doubt the others were sock puppets. 
You did wrong, PP.[/quote]

For the record, I am a completely new poster.  PP, this is what you said in your original post about this:
"Ultimately, my siblings essentially ghosted half sibling in an attempt to fix things with our sibling group."

People think you are an ass because your siblings chose to ghost the half sibling in order to appease you.  Maybe you didn't ask them to, maybe you did.  But either way they did it for you- so you showed through words, or actions, or prior obnoxious behavior that you would not resume your relationship with you full siblings unless they cut off contact.  And that is why many posters are rightfully calling you out for being narcissistic and spiteful.  [/quote]

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