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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, look forwards, not backwards. Everything you did for the marriage is a sunk cost and you can't get that back or make history more fair. You can't make your husband commit to the marriage again.

What solution do you want that's within your control? [/quote]

For now, I am not even able to plan or think about a long term solution. I am thinking in terms of small steps I can take now  that would make exit less painful for my son (who can’t live in a car like some people suggested here).
I wrote to do list of small and bigger things and began executing just to be busy with something.  Over the weekend, I ordered 2 voice recording pens (one for his car one for basement office) so I could have first hand info when he talks to his lawyer and be prepared. Found a cheaper but very good language tutor for my son. Raised a question of moving him into another private school which has a strong sports team (so I wouldn’t need to drive errands if I happen to go back to office job). Husband didn’t mind starting the application. Unlocked husbands IPad by guessing (that was easy). Didn’t get a chance to review files and messages closer but once he’s out jogging I will be right back on it. Brought my books upstairs to resume work on a professional license I wanted to get back in 2012. We have joint assets that bring good income, but I don’t know if he would be able to block that income from being used on lawyers if divorce happens. This means I need to have a small but independent job now. I saved around $50k over the last year when it all started on a secret account, but given my husbands financial strength it’s incomparable how much he could spend on lawyers. The longer I am able to save secretly delaying divorce, the better is my own account.

Because thinking long term is just way too hard, for now I am living executing similar small tasks day by day and following the current. [/quote]

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